1 year ago today & my thoughts
Posted on Saturday, April 4th, 2009 at 8:48 am1 year ago today Donald told me we were chosen to adopt a baby boy!
Our social worker, Susan, had called and emailed us about 4:30pm on year ago today, advising we were going to adopt a boy set to be induced on April 16th. This sent us into crazy 12 days of waiting, registering, calling our social worker and attorney almost daily, moving items out of our spare bedroom and turning it into a nursery.
I can’t believe it’s been a year!
On another note: Octomom. Everyone at work talks about her and her kids. Well, I think it’s interesting, because if she applied to adopt, I don’t think a social worker would have approved her. No job, living at home with her parents, I can’t see how she would have been approved to adopt 8 children when she already had 7 children already at home. Now, I’m not saying what she did was wrong, but I just want to draw attention to the difference between trying to adopt and having infertility/fertility treatment. For her to have 8 babies naturally, a social worker did not have to be involved, she did not have to disclose how much money she made (other than paying for the treatment), and she did not have to have friends and family write recommendation letters advising that she was a good mother.
Again, I am not saying getting infertility treatments over adoption is wrong. I just am drawing attention to the fact that adoptive parents have to go through a lot more “certification” than parents who chose infertility treatments. I feel badly for the kids, because they don’t care about my opinions or what anyone else thinks; they just want to be fed, and loved, and cared for. I just hope that she is up to the task and there are others in her life that can help support these children.
I also am finding it strange about Madonna trying to adopt a second child from (I cannot remember which African country). Why did they let her adopt her first child from there without staying in the country the mandatory 9-18 months but now they won’t let her adopt a 2nd child? Is it because she is now a single parent?
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Malawi, it’s Malawi and I agree with you too. Sadly it seems that couples who are dying to have children and who would take any baby when infertile, are treated with such suspicion in our country, it seems that “the rights” of women (whether it be from abortion to the other end being to take fertility drugs) is dare I say encouraged, whether or not the welfare of a child touched by these so-called “rights” is protected, it’s all about “my rights” over the child’s rights, well sometimes those “rights” that these various groups demand have in the end very selfish intents behind them. Octomom and Madonna’s intent should be scrutinized!
Praise God that He intervened on Joshua’s behalf and gave him two of the most amazing people for parents. I can’t believe it’s been a year, I look at the pictures of Josh and see how he is thriving and how HE is truly (and was always meant to be) your son. LOVE the “munching on the foot” photos, matter of fact I saved one of them on my desktop at home and when I need a good chuckle I pull one of those pictures up.