away for a while

My mother unexpectedly passed away on June 11, 2007 so I will be away from blogging for a while.

Posted by: DramaQueen | 06-22-2007 | 05:06 AM
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can’t sleep

I took a nap today (which was a big mistake) because right now I’m up looking at adoption blogs while I should be sleeping!

Ever since we started on this crazy adoption - moving - shopping for houses merry go round it’s been hard to make it to church. Say a little prayer for us!

Posted by: DramaQueen | 06-10-2007 | 01:06 AM
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We’re bored

My husband joked that we’re bored. We are currently trying to sell our house, buy a house, put a book together for potential birth moms, meeting with social workers….everything is swirling around us at once! AND, work has been the busiest and most stressful for me that it’s been so far! Yipee!

The first meeting with social worker S.T. to start the home study is scheduled for June 13th.

We found a house we LOVE with this huge backyard, we made an offer, but the realtor selling that house couldn’t get a hold of the sellers. Well, by the time they got a hold of the sellers ANOTHER offer was made on the house. The other offer I guess is similar to our offer, but there is no contingency on it. Our offers all say “we can only make this offer and buy it if our own house sells.” So, I am expecting they will take the other person’s offer over ours since they can buy the house free and clear. That’s what I would do.

so, I’m trying to prepare myself for the next round of looking at homes. Also, we have been talking with our adoption attorney about adoption fees. They come in around 11,000 to 12,000. There are tax credits (that is one good thing Bush administration has done that we’re greatful for) where you get most if not all of the money back that you’ve put into the adoption. However, the trick is having the money the previous year to throw out there for it. Hubby and I feel like we’ve been waiting forever for kids, and now everythng is happening at once, and I hate it that we have to think about if we can shell out that much money at once to adopt a child.  We need to buy a bigger house that’s closer to work just to make our lives easier and have more room for child(ren), but then that brings down how much extra money we have to put into adoption. I had looked into grants from work but I guess our employer doesn’t do that. It just all seems very frustrating and unfair (as it always will), but we know other people have adopted and they’ve made it through this experience and it’s worked out in the end.

Posted by: DramaQueen | 06-07-2007 | 07:06 AM
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paperwork craziness

We found another house we liked so we made an offer - another flurry of signing paperwork and faxing it in to our realtor. We will see if they accept the offer or if we need to counter with a higher offer. Our mortgage guy is trying to get sellers to pay all our closing costs, and we have a contingency on it that our house has to sell, so those are things that may not look as good to a seller. However, we feel like making a full price offer helps to sweeten the deal when we have the contingency and high closing costs - so we’ll have to see how it works out!

We really, really like the house. It has a HUGE backyard and an open upstairs floor plan - the only reason you would have to go downstairs would be for the office and laundry, but it’s nicer than our current plan because you don’t have to walk up a flight of stairs to get in the house with groceries and such, so that will be good.

I am also having a bummed out day - even thought exciting things are happening I feel as if it’s going to take a lot of money and a lot of time to adopt (which it will.) Sometimes I just wish it were faster and easier, but I guess nothing in life that’s worth it is easy and fast. I hope when I’m frustrated and sleep deprived and my kid has wrecked our car or messed up our house by scribbling on the wall that I will remember that we wanted our kids so very much we spent so much time, effort, and money on getting them!

Posted by: DramaQueen | 06-04-2007 | 11:06 AM
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phone tag with social worker

I have played phone tag with the social worker that our attorney suggested - she is super swamped but she may be able to make time for us since we haven’t bought a new house yet. A lot of the actual home study photos and evaluations can come at a later date. We need to have family and friends write references for us, so I’ve been making a mental list of all the people I need to ask to do that for us. We also need to get writing our family book to give to our attorney and gathering up photos - it’s hard to do that when a lot of stuff is packed!

There is a house I really, really like that I’m showing the hubby tomorrow - it’s right at the top of our price range. There is another house that’s cheaper that we’re seeing tomorrow as well, but I don’t like it nearly as much. It should be interesting. Today I had a surprise visitor to look at our current home - and another appointment tomorrow. I just want to get moved so we have more room to work on this home study and paperwork we need to write!

Posted by: DramaQueen | 06-02-2007 | 02:06 PM
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